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The emotional pain is there for a reason

I see a lot of people who come to me with features of depression, anxiety, stress, burnout, insomnia, and sometimes even suicidal thoughts. When you dig a little deeper, it's usually because of one or more stressful life events - death in the family, marital discord, separation, divorce, relationship breakups, losing a job, caring for a sick family member etc.

In conventional psychiatry, you only need 2 weeks of depressive symptoms to be diagnosed with depression without needing any aetiological reasons, meaning we don't really need to know why you feel the way you feel. Then we have a magic pill that makes you "feel" better ... wait, you're saying I should medicate my grief when my dog dies?

But think about it for a second, why did we feel the pain in the first place? What is the role of pain in an organism? The simplest answer is that it's a warning signal that SOMETHING'S NOT RIGHT, and the brain will try and coordinate a response to try and fix the problem or get out of that situation. Physical pain and mental/emotional pain serves the same purpose - to tell you that something needs to change. So if you numb out the pain with alcohol, drug, sex, gambling, internet, toxic relationships, and other self-sabotaging behaviour or chemicals, you're just denying yourself the signals you're receiving, and there won't be the drive to push you towards change.

I know it's tough to embrace the pain, because we're hard wired to avoid pain as a survival mechanism. But in the modern day society, a lot of the pain we feel are not directly due to a fixable problem such as the feeling of hunger from famine, or the flesh wound after a tribal war or being mauled by a saber-tooth tiger. It's complex, multi-layered and internal pain that we're feeling on a mental, emotional, and spiritual level. And the right medication only works when we address these fundamental sources of pain through healing and self-improvement. If it feels like things can't get worse right now, remember that time heals everything.

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